Tuesday, 25 October 2016

Race to Finish

A Race is usually a competition entered into by a certain number of participants to see who get to the stated destination first.
As kids, we would play games testing who will finish a particular task, game before the others. Then, we would put in all of our efforts in the task in order to win for the fun of it or in some cases to avoid being subjected to the ridicules of our peers if we lost.
So I closed from the office and was on my way home. I met a queue that was moderate at the terminal and I boarded a bus to my destination.
It just happened that I saw a friend that was still on the queue when my bus left. Feeling concerned, I sent a message asking far he had gone and he said they were behind and all that. I now jokingly commented that I wish I would get home before he does but I knew that I couldn't get home before him despite leaving before him.
As I pondered over the conversation I couldn't help but wonder at the unnecessary stress we put ourselves through when we compete against each other on things we have only a certain level of control over. Perhaps, yes perhaps, we carried over the competitive trait we used to exhibit when we were younger into adulthood but now it’s not for fun but serious business.

Competition by itself is good as it pushes you beyond what you considered your limits but most times, due to the reality we are faced with, we take it too far.
For me, I knew that I couldn't get home before my friend because I live further off than him
and I would still face some traffic on the road which he would not face. That concluded I knew it was not “Healthy” competing with him

if I knew better in that situation, then why can't I apply the same reasoning in all aspects of my life? Yes, we all strive to achieve a particular goal in our various lives but it is best that in our pursuit, we do not:
  •      Run at other people paces 
  •    Remember that whatever we achieve is a function of the time and effort we put into it 
  •     Understand that we will all arrive at our destinations at different times
  • Take control of situations in our lives such that it doesn't control us.
Also worthy of mention are the following points:

  •   Competition if not handled properly breeds envy, jealousy and feelings of resentment towards the person that "succeeded"
  • A feeling of "I am not good enough" creeps on you when you do not achieve what you set out to do. Especially when you have set "unrealistic limits" for yourself
  • Flowing from the above, other issues such as low self-esteem and even depression could occur which could ruin one’s life without you knowing it.
If you must compete, do it reasonably and consider the following points:
  • Who you are competing with?
  • The advantages you have over each other
  • Why are you competing, Are you doing it because someone you know is also involved or because you sincerely want to?
We will surely achieve whatever we set out to if we do not quit and rough it out till the end. Remember, we started at different times and we will get there at different times.

Even the creator of the heavens and the earth did not create it all at once. He did it in stages, not because he couldn't do it all at once but so that we can appreciate that good things take time.


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